Right to choose the husband

These days woman are given right to speech, vote, education etc, . I mean equal civil rights as that of men. Still women are the ones who suffer domestic violence,  sexual harassment,  marital rapes and unhappy marriages.  

Why???

 Woman aren't given their deserved right to choose their spouse. 

The most important thing in a life for a woman is marriage. A happy marriage and good spouse can make her life but the opposite can ruin her life. 

My dear parents of girl children, the most important thing is you can give is,  please give them the opportunity or right to choose their spouse. This was the Vedic culture.  

Do you know why woman's opinion is utmost priority in marriage? 

However a educated or influential woman may be, still 99% of the marriages are arranged because women are still submissive to their parents happiness even letting go of their own life. 

In manu samhita,  it is said that whenever a man has propulsion, he has right to be with his wife.  How hard is for women who doesn't love her husband or who isn't her choice to tolerate that. 

And please don't tell me that we had been married without asking "the same old excuse."  Why not accept the  change with the happy heart? 

On top of being not married to husband of her choice, a woman is pressurised for a child.  Why the civilization is pushing a woman off to cliff? 

I will provide you with relevant information from Srimad Bhagavatam,  how woman have the right to choose their spouse even in arranged marriages.  

Did you ever found one anecdotes from Vedic history of men having svayamvara? NO,  never.   WHY ONLY WOMEN HAVE SVAYAMVARA? I WILL TELL YOU.  

Here two words are used very significantly-yathā-śīlam and yathā-ruci. The daughters should be handed over to the respective ṛṣis, not blindly, but according to the combination of character and taste. That is the art of combining a man and woman.

SB 3.24.15, Translation and Purport

Therefore, today please give away your daughters to the foremost of the sages, with due regard for the girls' temperaments and likings, and thereby spread your fame all over the universe.

The nine principal ṛṣis, or sages, are Marīci, Atri, Aṅgirā, Pulastya, Pulaha, Kratu, Bhṛgu, Vasiṣṭha and Atharvā. All these ṛṣis are most important, and Brahmā desired that the nine daughters already born of Kardama Muni be handed over to them. Here two words are used very significantly-yathā-śīlam and yathā-ruci. The daughters should be handed over to the respective ṛṣis, not blindly, but according to the combination of character and taste. That is the art of combining a man and woman. Man and woman should not be united simply on the consideration of sex life. There are many other considerations, especially character and taste. If the taste and character differ between the man and woman, their combination will be unhappy. Even about forty years ago, in Indian marriages, the taste and character of the boy and girl were first of all matched, and then they were allowed to marry. This was done under the direction of the respective parents. The parents used to astrologically determine the character and tastes of the boy and girl, and when they corresponded, the match was selected: "This girl and this boy are just suitable, and they should be married." Other considerations were less important. The same system was also advised in the beginning of the creation by Brahmā: "Your daughters should be handed over to the ṛṣis according to taste and character."

According to astrological calculation, a person is classified according to whether he belongs to the godly or demoniac quality. In that way the spouse was selected. A girl of godly quality should be handed over to a boy of godly quality. A girl of demoniac quality should be handed over to a boy of demoniac quality. Then they will be happy. But if the girl is demoniac and the boy is godly, then the combination is incompatible; they cannot be happy in such a marriage. At the present moment, because boys and girls are not married according to quality and character, most marriages are unhappy, and there is divorce.

It is foretold in the Twelfth Canto of the Bhāgavatam that in this age of Kali married life will be accepted on the consideration of sex only; when the boy and girl are pleased in sex, they get married, and when there is deficiency in sex, they separate. That is not actual marriage, but a combination of men and women like cats and dogs. Therefore, the children produced in the modern age are not exactly human beings. Human beings must be twice-born. A child is first born of a good father and mother, and then he is born again of the spiritual master and the Vedas. The first mother and father bring about his birth into the world; then the spiritual master and the Vedas become his second father and mother. According to the Vedic system of marriage for producing children, every man and woman was enlightened in spiritual knowledge, and at the time of their combination to produce a child, everything was scrutinizingly and scientifically done.

Saubhari Ṛṣi was engaged in austerity, deep in the water of the River Yamunā, when he saw a pair of fish engaged in sexual affairs. Thus he perceived the pleasure of sex life, and induced by this desire he went to King Māndhātā and begged for one of the King’s daughters. In response to this request, the King said, “O brāhmaṇa, any of my daughters may accept any husband according to her personal selection.”(Srimad Bhagavatam 9.6.40)

Even in case of the most chaste woman savitri,  she was chosen another man by her father, but she refuses saying that already she has accepted satyavan has her husband in heart.  

Oh what about the caste? Then it will be varna sankara  or mixed varna population, anuloma or pratiloma ????

 A woman who finds a man with superior qualities may accept such a man as her husband. Similarly, if a man finds a woman who is from an inferior family but who has good qualities, he can accept such a brilliant wife, as advised by Śrī Cāṇakya Paṇḍita (strī-ratnaṁ duṣkulād api). The combination of male and female is worthwhile if the qualities of both are on an equal level. SRIMAD BHAGAVATAM 9.14.21

My dear parents,  if you really desire good for your daughters,  please give them the right to select their own husband and provide them your support. This is the only thing that will make them happy.  Women are gifted by God with intuitive ability.  A ability sense upcoming danger or happiness.  

You have to sacrifice your ego in name of caste, creed, colour etc. Don't see what you lose, see what you gain.  

Hare Krsna