Prognosis of Domestic Violence

"Do not agitate your husband"- if you wish a conflict free marriage. 

Tips to avoid or handle difficult situations in marriage: 

Rule 1, Never argue with angry husband 

Always remember proper communication is key to break or make the situation. Arguments prolong the solution and strains personal relationships. Try to avoid conversations turning into arguments by staying silent after you explain the situation. Heated blastic arguments clouds the clarity of mind. Thumb Rule is if one of the spouses is angry, other one should remain silent. 

Rule 2, Don't try to prove your point on the heat of the moment 

You may be right, even correct things at wrong timing, would worsen the situation. Trying to prove your self worth to a suspicious or prejuidcious husband will never work in your favor. 

Rule 3, Listen carefully and find the reason behind your husband anger

Try to carefully listen his accusations during anger. People release unexpressed hostile emotions or hidden motives, even something that he is hiding from you when triggered. Find out what made your husband angry, if it's reasonable try to apologise. 

Rule 4, Don't become outrageous 

Anger is not a source of strength but weakness. Silence is powerful.  Control your wrath against angry husband. Try not become offensive,  avoid personal attacks during conflicts. This will be remembered throughout lifetime. Conscious endeavour to remain respectful, decent and remain in your position as a wife. 

Rule 5, Find out emotional triggers which agitates your husband

Common situations that trigger intense emotions include:

  • rejection
  • betrayal
  • unjust treatment
  • challenged beliefs
  • helplessness or loss of control
  • being excluded or ignored
  • disapproval or criticism
  • feeling unwanted or unneeded
  • feeling smothered or too needed
  • insecurity
  • loss of independence [1]

Rule 6, Hold a positive conversation, consciously avoid negative emotions like,
Yelling
Crying 
Playing the victim 
Blaming
Critical 
Bringing the past mistakes 
Devaluation etc.

Remember, as a chaste wife it is your duty is keep your husband peaceful and non disturbing. It's an art women need to master, How not to turn your man into beast!!!

Cyavana Muni had an irritable temperament. His wife, Sukanyā, could understand his attitude, and under the circumstances she treated him accordingly. If any wife wants to be happy with her husband, she must try to understand her husband's temperament and please him. This is victory for a woman. (Srimad Bhagavatam 9.3.10) 



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